Invent a memory context reset/delete callback mechanism.

This allows cleanup actions to be registered to be called just before a
particular memory context's contents are flushed (either by deletion or
MemoryContextReset).  The patch in itself has no use-cases for this, but
several likely reasons for wanting this exist.

In passing, per discussion, rearrange some boolean fields in struct
MemoryContextData so as to avoid wasted padding space.  For safety,
this requires making allowInCritSection's existence unconditional;
but I think that's a better approach than what was there anyway.