Use weaker locks when updating pg_subscription_rel

The previously used ShareRowExclusiveLock, while technically probably
more correct, led to deadlocks during seemingly unrelated operations and
thus a poor experience.  Use RowExclusiveLock, like for most similar
catalog operations.  In some care cases, the user might see an error
from DDL commands.

Discussion: https://www.postgresql.org/message-id/flat/13592.1490851519%40sss.pgh.pa.us

Author: Petr Jelinek <petr.jelinek@2ndquadrant.com>