Make walsender more responsive.

Per testing by Andres Freund, this improves replication performance
and reduces replication latency and latency jitter.  I was a bit
concerned about moving more work into XLogInsert, but testing seems
to show that it's not a problem in practice.

Along the way, improve comments for WaitLatchOrSocket.

Andres Freund.  Review and stylistic cleanup by me.