Rework MultiXactId cache code

The original performs too poorly; in some scenarios it shows way too
high while profiling.  Try to make it a bit smarter to avoid excessive
cosst.  In particular, make it have a maximum size, and have entries be
sorted in LRU order; once the max size is reached, evict the oldest
entry to avoid it from growing too large.

Per complaint from Andres Freund in connection with new tuple freezing
code.