Add missing_ok option to the SQL functions for reading files.

This makes it possible to use the functions without getting errors, if there
is a chance that the file might be removed or renamed concurrently.
pg_rewind needs to do just that, although this could be useful for other
purposes too. (The changes to pg_rewind to use these functions will come in
a separate commit.)

The read_binary_file() function isn't very well-suited for extensions.c's
purposes anymore, if it ever was. So bite the bullet and make a copy of it
in extension.c, tailored for that use case. This seems better than the
accidental code reuse, even if it's a some more lines of code.

Michael Paquier, with plenty of kibitzing by me.