Fix logic bug in gistchoose and gistRelocateBuildBuffersOnSplit.

Every time the best-tuple-found-so-far changes, we need to reset all
the penalty values in which_grow[] to the penalties for the new best
tuple.  The old code failed to do this, resulting in inferior index
quality.

The original patch from Alexander Korotkov was just two lines; I took
the liberty of fleshing that out by adding a bunch of comments that I
hope will make this logic easier for others to understand than it was
for me.