pg_ctl: Detect current standby state from pg_control

pg_ctl used to determine whether a server was in standby mode by looking
for a recovery.conf file.  With this change, it instead looks into
pg_control, which is potentially more accurate.  There are also
occasional discussions about removing recovery.conf, so this removes one
dependency.

Reviewed-by: Michael Paquier <michael.paquier@gmail.com>