Improve error message and hint for ALTER COLUMN TYPE can't-cast failure.

We already tried to improve this once, but the "improved" text was rather
off-target if you had provided a USING clause.  Also, it seems helpful
to provide the exact text of a suggested USING clause, so users can just
copy-and-paste it when needed.  Per complaint from Keith Rarick and a
suggestion from Merlin Moncure.

Back-patch to 9.2 where the current wording was adopted.