Fix pg_hba.conf matching so that replication connections only match records

with database = replication.  The previous coding would allow them to match
ordinary records too, but that seems like a recipe for security breaches.
Improve the messages associated with no-such-pg_hba.conf entry to report
replication connections as such, since that's now a critical aspect of
whether the connection matches.  Make some cursory improvements in the related
documentation, too.