Implement COMMIT_SIBLINGS parameter to allow pre-commit delay to occur

only if at least N other backends currently have open transactions.  This
is not a great deal of intelligence about whether a delay might be
profitable ... but it beats no intelligence at all.  Note that the default
COMMIT_DELAY is still zero --- this new code does nothing unless that
setting is changed.
Also, mark ENABLEFSYNC as a system-wide setting.  It's no longer safe to
allow that to be set per-backend, since we may be relying on some other
backend's fsync to have synced the WAL log.