Create an improved FDW option validator function for contrib/dblink.

dblink now has its own validator function dblink_fdw_validator(), which is
better than the core function postgresql_fdw_validator() because it gets
the list of legal options from libpq instead of having a hard-wired list.

Make the dblink extension module provide a standard foreign data wrapper
dblink_fdw that encapsulates use of this validator, and recommend use of
that wrapper instead of making up wrappers on the fly.

Unfortunately, because ad-hoc wrappers *were* recommended practice
previously, it's not clear when we can get rid of postgresql_fdw_validator
without causing upgrade problems.  But this is a step in the right
direction.

Shigeru Hanada, reviewed by KaiGai Kohei