Fix "failed to re-find parent key" btree VACUUM failure by revising page

deletion code to avoid the case where an upper-level btree page remains "half
dead" for a significant period of time, and to block insertions into a key
range that is in process of being re-assigned to the right sibling of the
deleted page's parent.  This prevents the scenario reported by Ed L. wherein
index keys could become out-of-order in the grandparent index level.

Since this is a moderately invasive fix, I'm applying it only to HEAD.
The bug exists back to 7.4, but the back branches will get a different patch.