Fix failure of contrib/auto_explain to print per-node timing information.

This has been broken since commit af7914c6,
which added the EXPLAIN (TIMING) option.  Although that commit included
updates to auto_explain, they evidently weren't tested very carefully,
because the code failed to print node timings even when it should, due to
failure to set es.timing in the ExplainState struct.  Reported off-list by
Neelakanth Nadgir of Salesforce.

In passing, clean up the documentation for auto_explain's options a
little bit, including re-ordering them into what seems to me a more
logical order.