Speed up information schema privilege views

Instead of expensive cross joins to resolve the ACL, add table-returning
function aclexplode() that expands the ACL into a useful form, and join
against that.

Also, implement the role_*_grants views as a thin layer over the respective
*_privileges views instead of essentially repeating the same code twice.

fixes bug #4596

by Joachim Wieland, with cleanup by me