Add isolation test for INSERT ON CONFLICT speculative insertion failure.

This path previously was not reliably covered. There was some
heuristic coverage via insert-conflict-toast.spec, but that test is
not deterministic, and only tested for a somewhat specific bug.

Backpatch, as this is a complicated and otherwise untested code
path. Unfortunately 9.5 cannot handle two waiting sessions, and thus
cannot execute this test.

Triggered by a conversion with Melanie Plageman.

Author: Andres Freund
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/CAAKRu_a7hbyrk=wveHYhr4LbcRnRCG=yPUVoQYB9YO1CdUBE9Q@mail.gmail.com
Backpatch: 9.5-