Fix ALTER COLUMN TYPE to not open a relation without any lock.

If the column being modified is referenced by a foreign key constraint
of another table, ALTER TABLE would open the other table (to re-parse
the constraint's definition) without having first obtained a lock on it.
This was evidently intentional, but that doesn't mean it's really safe.
It's especially not safe in 9.3, which pre-dates use of MVCC scans for
catalog reads, but even in current releases it doesn't seem like a good
idea.

We know we'll need AccessExclusiveLock shortly to drop the obsoleted
constraint, so just get that a little sooner to close the hole.

Per testing with a patch that complains if we open a relation without
holding any lock on it.  I don't plan to back-patch that patch, but we
should close the holes it identifies in all supported branches.

Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/2038.1538335244@sss.pgh.pa.us