nodeModifyTable.c

This covers all the SQL-standard trigger types supported for regular
tables; it does not cover constraint triggers.  The approach for
acquiring the old row mirrors that for view INSTEAD OF triggers.  For
AFTER ROW triggers, we spool the foreign tuples to a tuplestore.

This changes the FDW API contract; when deciding which columns to
populate in the slot returned from data modification callbacks, writable
FDWs will need to check for AFTER ROW triggers in addition to checking
for a RETURNING clause.

In support of the feature addition, refactor the TriggerFlags bits and
the assembly of old tuples in ModifyTable.

Ronan Dunklau, reviewed by KaiGai Kohei; some additional hacking by me.